Challenges dating single mother
What to do instead: Time is the best measure of knowing when to introduce the children.
And even if she seems to be the perfect woman, there may be some aspects about dating a single mom that you are just not willing to deal with. Don’t get me wrong, it can be very rewarding to date a single mom.Also, an ex might have more influence over a mother than you will be able to deal with.The fact is that there once was a romantic relationship, and there still may be feelings there that cause her to defend or protect her ex in a way that is uncomfortable to you.To remedy my fears, I turned to seasoned dating coaches, Julianne Cantarella, MSW, and Elisabeth Lamotte, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert, to figure out the biggest dating mistakes single moms make (and the smart moves that should replace them). "It's not only the woman who can be hurt if the relationship ends, but the children as well." A savvy single mom should wait as long as possible before introducing her kids to the potential boyfriend and never make the intro around the holidays, the experts advise."Women should gain a sense of her boyfriend's interaction based on how he treats her and possibly his own children if he has them," says Cantarella, who suggests erring on the side of caution."Once the boyfriend is introduced there is no going back, and expectations are raised," she adds.