Dating single dad problems
I know it works well for some people – and given that there were entire weekends when I wasn’t responsible for looking after the kids, it seemed like a great idea.
I met a few nice ladies, of approximately appropriate age, and even went out for dinner or drinks a few times with a couple of them…
To be honest, there’s the fact that I have almost entirely forgotten how to meet women – and to be completely honest, I was never all that good at it anyway.
So when it came time to re-introduce myself to polite society (ie, stop being a morose old man, sitting at home and feeling sorry for myself), I was completely stumped. A mate of mine told me to try Tinder, which I did, and wish I hadn’t.
That sort of hermit lifestyle isn’t unusual for divorced dads.
The shrinking social circle that comes with having children is often exacerbated by a break up – she got the house and the friends, you got a second-hand Ford Falcon and a rented apartment that looks like it was furnished by a pack of drunk students.
What this means when dating can vary from infrequent dates due to juggling schedules and perhaps cancellation of anticipated dates when family plans change.
But, dads that prioritize their family may just be a better date because of these beliefs and therefore just might be worth their weight after all.
I’m sure it wasn’t merely the fact that I have kids that did it, though.
Relationships are complicated enough without adding in several more layers of “what ifs” – so it’s almost easier just to push through the loneliness, and spare myself and the boys any risk of further hassle.
But that’s not to say that I haven’t given it a go…
Views on the list of "problems" when dating a single dad will vary and may depend on whether or not the other party is a single parent also.
Just because a man is a father, does not mean he is looking for a mother for his child.