Dating with herpes herpes simplex
She and her husband Bill worked together for six years before beginning to date and were married in November 2017.
‘When I found out I had herpes, I had to go back to the office and when I walked in, he asked me what was wrong. He told me that everything will be ok and that he considered me family so if there is anything I ever needed, I should call him.
But keep in mind, I never slept with anyone without disclosing that I had herpes.’ Can you still have a satisfying sex life when living with genital herpes?
Charities and herpes associations agree that it’s completely possible to have fun, loving and romantic bedroom frolics with your partner.
It was very hard to tell a guy I liked that I had herpes, hoping that they would still want to date me.’ Alexandra also admits that she has used the ‘herpes card’ to her advantage if there was someone she didn’t want to have sex with.
On the day she received a call from her doctor with the results of her test: ‘I was mad, crushed, confused, angry, depressed and it goes on and on.
It takes a lot of self-reflection and self-worth to begin the dating process.
Taking antiviral medication reduces the risk of an outbreak, but also doesn’t guarantee that a partner wouldn’t be exposed to the virus.
Marian Nicholson, Director of the Herpes Viruses Association & Shingles Support Society in London, told uk: ‘Since genital herpes is in fact “a cold sore down there”, the widely-held misconception that it will be a barrier to a full life is sad.
‘No one with a facial infection would expect it to make any difference, they are not told to kiss through a sheet of cling film!
‘We ran a survey of our members asking how many potential partners they had talked to about this – and how often they were rejected.
There was an 83% acceptance rate for both men and women, meaning that fewer than 1 in 5 partners wanted to discontinue the relationship.’ However, the risk of transmitting the disease is always present.