Jewish way of dating
After a while, you've dated so many people that not only do they become a blur, but you're reduced to using the most superficial criteria to distinguish them.'Oh good, this guy is taller than the last few guys I dated.' 'Oh no, she has very thin eyebrows.First, the orthodox Jewish community has exploded and the numbers are now enormous.With so many men and women looking to get married and so few matchmakers to assist, the system is buckling under the load.To be sure, my daughters are raised to be in a single-sex environment up until marriageable age.And even my daughter who has reached that age continues in a religious women's college with limited exposure to men.Likewise, I sporadically offer lectures geared specifically at Yeshiva men and seminary women of marriageable age who are afforded an opportunity to meet in a dignified setting that does not feel forced.What we should stay away from are forums like Speed-dating, something that is bad for both secular and religious singles.
But if we don't address this crisis soon, we will no longer be known as having a superior dating system that leads to blissfully happy couples.
In effect, the religious Jewish educational system should make every young man and woman a matchmaker in training, thereby vastly expanding the matchmaking pool.
Third, the religious Jewish world has to rethink the separation of the sexes.
And even if it doesn't, at least it will teach you about what you're not looking for.
But the more you date, the more desensitized you become. You're overexposed to something that's supposed to be just a little outside your reach, thereby inviting you to cross over to the other side.