Stone butch dating
This is more of a fun and sort of silly way in which lesbians refer to one another, than some actual, real-life categorization system. The activist lesbian The activist lesbian is characterized by her passion for social justice especially as it pertains to being a lesbian.
Butch, femme, young, and old, the activist lesbian can look like any other type of lesbian you might meet.
She likes dressing up, but she's equally happy in jeans and button down. The butch lesbian The butch lesbian presents herself as tough, make-up free and masculine to one degree or another.
This doesn't mean she's trying to look like a man, she's just subverting your idea of what a woman should look like and looking hot as hell in the process. The stone butch lesbian A stone butch lesbian is a butch lesbian (see above) who derives sexual pleasure from giving other women pleasure.
She's inspirational, passionate, and a lover of justice. The lipstick lesbian A lipstick lesbian, or femme lesbian, loves to dress in a highly feminized or "girly" manner.
Skirts, dresses, jewelry, lipstock, elaborate blowouts, these ladies go all out.
In the queer community, however, this is much less the case.
This room in queer culture for gender-bending aesthetics also allows room for definitions of attractiveness that don't hew closely to manly man-ness and feminine girlitude.
“It's like a pheremonic, energetic, physical thing,” my friend Madeline of the band Unstraight (or Ashley Blum when she's not rocking), told me. Short hair, or mohawks, the way [butch women] dress, the way they wear their clothes, that attitude ... I can't even tell you.” The reason it seems so unlikely that many lesbian and bi women find butches attractive is that the commonly understood meaning of “attractive” is nearly synonymous with “gender-conforming,” especially for women.
While an attractive man might have full lips or large, expressive eyes, a woman cannot deviate significantly from standard notions of femininity without being considered ugly.
She could be femme, butch, chapstick, or anything else, but for now she is characterized by her newness to the scene.
Take, for example, an inquiry I hear quite often: Do lesbians really find butch women attractive?